Abracadabra is an incantation used as a magic word in stage magic tricks, and historically was believed to have healing powers when inscribed on an amulet. The word is thought to have its origin in the Aramaic language, in which ibra (אברא) means "I have created".
And apparently unbeknownst to me, I was a believer in magic tricks. Go figure.
I love most Bravo reality shows but have had no desire to watch the new one hour waste of time, Miss Advised. Today, three of my friends referenced this damn show. Finally, I semi-viewed an episode while working and eating. I am no fan but one of the gals on the show made a decent comment; "I need to accept who he is in reality NOT what I want him to be".
Light bulb moment! Sit up straight listening. Catch a clue! Tune in and on. It sank in!
I have been guilty of this not only recently but for many years. I fell victim to any sappy romantic movie from the time I was 13 until yesterday by thinking that those stories are "real life". Those men are really out there and the stories always end with the boy and girl together, forever. I know that they are movies BUT they do plant seeds in your head that you could also have that perfect relationship. A romance that is free of fighting, being misunderstood, dealing with friends and family issues, forgetting to put a toilet seat down, hating their cat, meeting their ex wife, introducing kids into the equation, being pissed because you show up late to dinner or even deciding to not attend at all; these are real situations and "those" relationships do not exist. WAKE UP SISTER!
Still fuzzy on the topic? Think square peg, round hole ... it doesn't work no matter how hard you try. I think that it can be the same for men by wishing for woman to look like Heidi Klum all of the time, being prim and proper in public but a minx in the bedroom all while being able to cook and miraculously keeping a clean house, work a full time job and raise 2.5 children that will one day attend Harvard and find the cure for cancer AND eagerly jump at the opportunity to hang out with his college friends.
Both examples are obviously exaggerated but you get it. I have had several long term relationships that I was guilty of ignoring reality and hoping for the magical transformation. Obviously as a single girl these days they did not work. I'm not saying it was that I was perfect because that is far from the truth. My new rule is that when I recognize something early on that could be seen as a quirk or a little odd, I need to address it, resolve and move on.
This is in process effective immediately. I think the world of my sweet Dr. Rob. He is handsome, funny, digs music, loves his kids and dogs but his ex wife is bat shit crazy. I have dealt with this scenario once in my life (I nicknamed her Betty Broderick, don't know the name, Google it. You would have bolted too!) and I don't want to bring that mama drama into my relationships. We are still in contact and if the woman were to step in front of a bus tomorrow, I would be back to the mad crush but the chances of that happening are slim.
AB, God bless him. He is a great man and I like him but I can tell that he is ready for a real relationship. I cannot honestly say that I am at this point. We shall see. He makes me laugh hysterically, I love his style and his shaved head, he comes from a good family and he is a very good father to his son. However, AB is in the oil and gas industry and travels 2-3 days each week. Hmmm... should not be a deal breaker but not ideal.
No one is going to be perfect, you take the good with the bad and if the person is worth it; you make it work. I guess that I have not found that one yet but I know that he is out there and I will find him.... hopefully before I hit the big 5-0.
I just threw out all of my black top hats, broke my magic wand and boiled the two rabbits that I had left from my bag o' tricks. I'm gettin' real.
This is in process effective immediately. I think the world of my sweet Dr. Rob. He is handsome, funny, digs music, loves his kids and dogs but his ex wife is bat shit crazy. I have dealt with this scenario once in my life (I nicknamed her Betty Broderick, don't know the name, Google it. You would have bolted too!) and I don't want to bring that mama drama into my relationships. We are still in contact and if the woman were to step in front of a bus tomorrow, I would be back to the mad crush but the chances of that happening are slim.
AB, God bless him. He is a great man and I like him but I can tell that he is ready for a real relationship. I cannot honestly say that I am at this point. We shall see. He makes me laugh hysterically, I love his style and his shaved head, he comes from a good family and he is a very good father to his son. However, AB is in the oil and gas industry and travels 2-3 days each week. Hmmm... should not be a deal breaker but not ideal.
No one is going to be perfect, you take the good with the bad and if the person is worth it; you make it work. I guess that I have not found that one yet but I know that he is out there and I will find him.... hopefully before I hit the big 5-0.
I just threw out all of my black top hats, broke my magic wand and boiled the two rabbits that I had left from my bag o' tricks. I'm gettin' real.
2 comments:
Well, you KNOW I totally agree with all this. And I still believe my glass is half full...it's just half-full of real expectations, knowing you don't actually get to know the REAL person for awhile because, as you, I'm a romantic and want to *believe* it what could be. I hope someone is out there for both of us. They're going to have to be confident and independent men though! :)
Thank you dear. I'm not saying that I am down on dating but I have been through a few frogs and in order to find the prince, I need to be honest about what I want and not just settle for less. Muah!
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